Will, Won’t or Maybe Monday

Last week i covered several kinky activities but said i would talk about bondage this week.  

Bondage is the consensual restriction of movement of another person for erotic pleasure through the use of implements like rope, chains, cuffs, neckties, zip ties, or tape.  Bondage is exciting because the submissive surrenders total control and puts complete trust in their Dom.  This is a key element to bondage play.  You must know and have vetted the Dom with whom you are playing.  You have to trust your Dom and know he will do nothing beyond the scope of activities that you negotiated prior to play.  You know He will do nothing to deliberately cause harm to you.

i actually have been bound only a few times, but thoroughly enjoyed each time…and look forward to more intense play next time. Previously i wrote about being shackled, wrists and ankles, to a metal bench, but before that i was shackled, again wrists and ankles, to a seat for anal electro play.  These two sessions were with the same Dom who i completely trust and highly respect.  Also, i participated in classes on flogging where i was cuffed loosely to a wall.  Then, there were also a couple of times i played “pretend restraints”.  That was when i wanted to submit but was too afraid to give up control and didn’t know the other person well, so i had not developed a trusting relationship yet.
Bondage Precautions (edited from Wikipedia)

The use of a “safeword”, or some clear way for the sub to indicate distress or pain, and a wish to discontinue, temporarily stop or vary the activities of the play.

Never leave a bound person alone.

Avoid positions or restraints that may cause postural asphyxia, the restriction of breathing.

Make sure that the sub changes positions at least once an hour (to avoid circulation problems).

Make sure that the sub can be released quickly in an emergency.

Avoid restraints which impair breathing. (Gags or hoods which block the mouth can become asphyxial hazards if the subject vomits or the nose becomes otherwise blocked).

Remain sober; alcohol and drugs should be avoided.

Accidents and lasting damage can generally be avoided by very simple security precautions and a rudimentary knowledge of the human anatomy. One very simple safety measure is to ask the subject every so often if he is all right. Another is to check body parts like hands and feet for numbness or coldness, which can happen if nerves have been pinched or blood circulation has been blocked. Another is to check for skin discoloration. Skin that does not get enough oxygen turns bluish. If blood can get in, but cannot get out because one of the veins has been blocked, that part of the body turns purple.

If the sub has been gagged or can otherwise not verbally communicate, a different form of the safeword is needed. For instance, they may hum a simple tune, or open and close one or both hands repeatedly, or release an object held in one hand (such as a rubber ball, or a scarf).

Play hard, play safe.

boy stray

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