Last night was the first meeting of this new group i came up with that has the goal of drawing in interested individuals new to the Leather Kink BDSM lifestyle. T/they are turned on by M/men in full leather. T/they are kinky and want to meet other gay M/men like T/them. T/they are drawn to various BDSM activities and the implements used to induce pain and pleasure. T/they are just curious.
W/we want T/them all!
This group meeting had three RSVP’s, then one dropped out of the “interested” list completely before i had even left the house. my former Mentor & Guardian came with one of His boys after much conversation via text trying to coax Him to at least meet and discuss O/our concepts and direction. W/we arrived before the established meeting time and talked, exchanging ideas. Approximately twenty five minutes later a participant came in to the coffee shop. After introductions W/we learned his whole kink revolved around ONE and only one activity he wanted done to him, and he was wanting to find a partner or two to accommodate his kink. That clearly was not O/our focus. The second Man, a Top, did not make it. i hope He comes to the next meeting. i was a little bummed out about the turnout till i realized W/we had a 50% show rate…one out of two came. Success!
i got home and saw the participant who came had removed himself from the group listing already.
My question to Y/you:
Does an official, organized and sanctioned mentoring program exist in Y/your Leather Kink BDSM community?
If so, i would like to hear all about it. If not, was there a program at one time and it petered out, or Y/you just couldn’t get that “kite to fly” where Y/you live?
i want to pick Y/your brains, mine Y/your thoughts and experiences.
As a nurse i was once asked by another nurse, “why do nurses ‘eat’ their young?” i hadn’t realized it was a pattern of behavior for older, seasoned nurses to make life hell for new nursing graduates. i vowed not to do that as i grew into my professional role. And i never did. i loved teaching, modeling behaviors, and showing them the ropes in their new career.
i tell Y/you all that not to brag but to put my current actions, goals and drive into seeing that this Leather, Gay, Male, BDSM & Kink Mentoring program gets off the ground. i don’t see the older, seasoned Leather Men/boys eating their young. i see some ignoring newbies and others seeing the newbie, but letting H/him flounder trying to meet others, learn protocol, experience BDSM and Kink, and just trying to fit in somewhere…anywhere! Very few will offer a hand of recognition, support and encouragement to that lonely new guy.
Why is that Men/boys?
i have been there. i have floundered, fucked up, nearly got myself into possibly dangerous situations, and why? Because i had no knowledge, no experience, no friends and/or no connections in the community i wanted so desperately to join.
my goal as a not so new newbie is to help establish a program for other newbies that develops mentor/mentee connections so the newbie doesn’t have to walk alone on H/his journey. H/he will have a friend, a guide, a mentor beside him.
So, get off Y/your asses Men! Can Y/you help a Leather brother?
Thanks for reading,