Do you accept and/or expect discipline or punishments as a part of your submission? How do you feel about it?
1 February 2017 – Yes, i accept and expect discipline and punishments as part of my submission. But, i believe a point of clarification needs to be made differentiating punishments from play. Punishments are not an extension of play. It is something that means to alter unsatisfactory behavior or for infraction of the rules established by the Dom. Punishments are not meant to be fun enticements to sex or a play session. Punishments can be physical or the taking away of a privilege or something very important to the submissive. It is meant to sting or hurt a bit. For example, if a sub enjoys spanking, the Dom may spank harder or use an implement the submissive does not enjoy. The Dom may decrease or withhold phone r television privileges. Or something i happened to just think of is cleaning every inch of the kitchen floor with a toothbrush. Now that is what i would call a harsh punishment given my visceral hatred of housework.
If the punishment is too lite, enjoyed by the submissive or has a sexual connotation it will not correct behavior, but rather would encourage unwanted behaviors and infractions to continue or become more frequent.
In ads for subs seeking Doms, i frequently see a sub pleading to be punished. To which i would say, that sub doesn’t have a clue about the Leather BDSM Kink lifestyle. A sub shouldn’t want a true punishment.
In response to the second question about how i feel about discipline and punishments, i personally would do everything i could not to make a mistake or break a rule. i would not want the painful and harsh punishment that would be administered swiftly. i would hope my training prepared me well for my role in the D/s relationship, so i could meet all His expectations and anticipate all His needs without Him having to utter a word.