Y/you may remember that i mentioned i was going to my first Dungeon Party. Well it happened last night.
i was excited but trying to not have too many unreasonable expectations. i tried to be ok with playing or not playing…whatever happened would be okay. i got dressed in my usual leather…boots, belt, vest, wrist band, 501 Levi jeans, and my hunter green bandana – right, back jeans pocket. The look is complete! Fresh haircut so i looked good and ready for my debut into the world of Dungeon Parties.
Since my club was co-sponsoring i got there early to help set up the bar and patio area. An assortment of men started arriving 30-40 minutes before opening time. But, where were the handsome, masculine Doms? But, it did look like it would be a good turnout.
i was excited to watch the Men arrive in all manner of dress and undress. Since most of them were only wearing jocks, harnesses and boots it was hard to tell the Doms from the subs…or as i found out later, it was hard to tell the tops from the bottoms. No flags because no back pockets. Wrist and arm bands seemed only for decoration. Who were the Doms? Where were the Doms?
i stayed on the patio area for a couple hours before i built up my confidence and courage to make a foray into the “dungeon”. All i saw was plain ole sex. Sucking, fucking, rimming. Where was the BDSM? Was a Dungeon party simply a sex party? Of course i watched a while taking in all the images. But it didn’t really turn me on. i was mostly frustrated.
Surprisingly most of the Men there were my age plus or minus 10 years. The exception was a handsome, young sub that took his clothes off and got up in a sling. Quickly he was surrounded by a sea of horny guys wanting to have their turn with him. There were erections that never went down — umm, chemically induced? Nothing wrong with that, but a constant erection for hours is interesting to see and watch. Envious? Maybe i was? Yup, i was!
When i came out from my excursion there was a boy bound to the cross. The Dom was using a cigar to stimulate the sub’s nipples, his chest and abdomen. Then he began tapping the boy’s balls with a paddle alternating the intensity with each tap. After a while the boy was turned around, re-bound to the cross and the flogging and spanking began. Very exciting to watch but felt a bit envious of the boy. Shoulda been me!
Later i learned that was one of two Demos. The second demo was a really intense flogging and paddling scene. The sub stripped down to his jock and boots and was flogged and paddled for what seemed like a very long time. In fact i got tired and decided to go home. It was only 11:15 pm. As i walked toward my car i could still hear that sub’s moans of pain & pleasure.
The next day i asked if all the Dungeon Parties at this venue were like this one. The answer was yes, “they are mostly about the sex.” “There are a lot of guys who come just for the sex. That’s they’re thing. They’re not into the BDSM at all.”
Sad. Disappointed. Where were the “real” Leather BDSM lifestyle Men/boys?
The search continues…