Let’s forego the usual alphabetical progression through the checklist of potential activities BDSM players and Kinksters can choose to participate in.
So, since i get to choose i want to select anal fucking, cock sucking, golden showers, hot wax play, rimming, and saline infusion just off the top of my head.
I chose these quickly from my list of “likes very much”.
Anal Fucking. – When i first came out even experimenting with gay sex i knew nothing about anal pleasure. i thought the only things gay men did together were frottage and cock sucking. Frottage came easy, but i really worked long and hard over hundreds of hours perfecting the art of the blow job. Then, once i came across an uncut cock that…wasn’t as clean as i personally preferred. Many gay men would have ended it there. But, he was hot and i was horny. So, i began the journey of learning the pleasures of anal and prostate stimulation. Before i learned the pleasures of anal sex, i kind of grimaced, tried to relax, and let him ram it in, and pump away till he came. After i learned much more about the ass I began to properly prepare of the night by thoroughly cleaning out, learning to really relax, and finding new ways to guide Mr. Anaconda in with the least amount of discomfort. Butt fucking became my go to activity. If a cock was too big to suck, it went up my butt. Then, one day i realized for me to really feel sexually satisfied, i had to get fucked. Don’t get me wrong, i still love sucking all the dicks i can, but for a real sexual connection i had to allow him inside me and encourage him to fill me with His cum…his essence, the seed of life and hope and all being. Heady stuff i know. i put great significance on the male ejaculate. To me it is His power, His maleness and masculinity.
With that being said, did Y/you ever see the movie Victor/Victoria. One line delivered by the older gay man was, “there’s nothing more inconvenient than an old queen with a head cold.” Of course he was referring to not being able to give blow jobs. Well, tweaking the line some these days i would have to say, “there is nothing more unsatisfying than a sub bottom boy who can no longer get fucked because of anal cancer radiation treatment side effects.” Not quite as good a quip as the one from the movie, but nevertheless just as poignant for me. Now, after 28 radiation treatments, anal fucking is difficult, and painful at best, and impossible to accomplish at the worst. But i love getting fucked. So i keep trying to get back to that previous level of satisfaction with anal sex.
GET YOUR FUCKING ANNUAL CERVICAL AND/ OR ANAL PAP TEST DONE IMMEDIATELY. PLEASE DON’T procrastinate!! It just might save Y/your life and keep Y/you from losing Y/your asshole!
Cock Sucking – i have been sucking cock since the first man after the very first man i got naked with and had sex. Well, that first time i was scared to death so i was a “do me” kinda guy that afternoon. Kind of a funny story, i was a twenty year old virgin, and i saw this phone number on the bathroom wall in one of my all time favorite places…the Public Library. My fingers trembled as i dialed, then asked for Norman. He was friendly, lived a few blocks from my parents home where i was living, and he immediately iinvited me over to his house. i could only fondle him, but he blew me three times in about thirty minutes. But, that experience won me over. i really liked getting those blow jobs, but i quickly found that i actually prefer giving them.
And, yes it is an art and a science. Y/you have to know the anatomy and some basic physiological responses of the penis when it is stimulated by oral sex. That’s the science. The art is in perfecting Y/your ability to suck, lick, deep throat, and stimulate the cock to ejaculation. Then, what to do when H/he cums? Spit or swallow? i think most men prefer it to be swallowed. Spitting it out seems rather rude, maybe judgmental, or even a rejection of H/him in some way.
Advice: learn to suck without scraping your teeth on the shaft; learn to control Y/your gag reflex because most men want more than a spit shine to the knob…deep threat that dick!; learn to take Y/your time – don’t rush through it so you get it over with. If you are a half ass cock sucker he’s going to know it, and probably move along; learn to gracefully spit, or swallow with exuberance. Sometimes if for some reason I don’t swallow, I subtly get the semen in my hand and use it for lube to jerk off. For some reason i find that a real turn on.
All men love a good blow job!
Golden Showers. – piss play. There is something about piss play that intrigues me. i love the warmth as i piss onto my legs and feet or even up on my torso. I’ve been given small amounts in cups to drink by two different Doms. i found it to be too pungent and too warm for my taste. Had one guy piss up my ass after fucking me. Didn’t know He had done it till He told me. That was an awkward walk to the bathroom to expel the urine without leaking or losing it half way to the toilet. Me, i prefer plain ole “on me” kind of piss play.
Hot wax – don’t use the candles off your dining room table. Those candles burn too hot, at a higher temperature, which can be dangerous and cause severe burns if not used very carefully. There are candles made especially for hot wax play. One of the tricks I learned in a class was to hold the candle at the right height above the sub so the wax cools a bit as it falls but retains enough heat for a good sting of heat as it hits the skin. Best to shave the area first if the area being played with is the genital/pubic area, or any other hairy areas like the chest and back. This can be a very sensual and erotic experience having the wax dripped on your skin, but also the Dom’s attention and efforts to remove the dried wax can be quite stimulating as well.
Rimming – growing up especially after being potty trained we are taught the the butt is dirty and should not be touched at any time except for cleaning. However there are quite a few nerve ending in the peri anal area that when stimulated evoke a sexual response. Now why would it feel so good to touch, stroke, finger, and lick that area if it was to be regarded as unclean and untouchable. Granted the vast majority of people who love rimming want the ass to be clean and fresh inside and out. i have often wondered why this is one sexual activity i love doing. But, I can rim a hot man butt for a long time before my tongue gets fatigued and my jaw gets sore. Funny thing is while i absolutely love rimming, i am not so fond of it being done to me. If Y/you’ve never experienced this sensation, i urge you to lie back, relax, and let a master rimmer like me take Y/you to new heights of ecstasy Y/you didn’t know Y/you could reach.
Saline infusion. – this is something i have not experienced yet. i am intrigued and really turned on by the thought of a hot Dom inserting a needle into my scrotum, attaching a bag of sterile fluids, and running about a liter of salt water into my nut sack. This significantly expands the scrotum making it very noticeable even under clothes. The class offered here is always done on Friday night which allows for fluid absorption over the weekend making Y/your scrotum less obvious when Y/you return to work Monday morning.
Building quite a repertoire of sexual acts, aren’t W/we?
Thanks for reading,